Came here through John and am so moved by your experience.
Sometimes I tell clients I want them to think about their memories like reading the book before seeing the movie (my photos). We all deserve to let our imaginations and memories create something first. Thank you for putting this into words!
I loved every part of this! Made it here from John sharing the link on Instagram and, as a photographer myself who recently got married, I relate to these feelings as a bride and also deeply appreciate this read as a photographer. Took many notes to come back to! Thank you for sharing these words and these photos with us 💌
This was equal parts sooo smart and so moving 😭. I don’t know if it is my relationship to it but I was so moved by this. You are such a beautiful writer — smart and moving is the whole brand. 🥹❤️🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
Found you via John Dolan (fellow photographer). Thank you for sharing your inspiring sentiment, and scientific research too.
This is so often felt on both sides of the lens, but rarely shared or spoken about, I carry the same questions and struggles with this no matter the side of the lens I’m on, for every client, every photo, every story.
My hope is for more revelations, as this, that as a whole we will ease back and remain more present surrounding our milestones to digest and then share authentically when the time is right for us, and not when the algorithm and everyone else expects it. TY ❤️
Fellow photographer here. Thank you for sharing so eloquently. I feel this tension every. single. wedding. I deeply desire my couples to roll over the morning after their wedding to be present with each other, not to look at their phones to vicariously relive every moment. And how I wish I could give that gift to each of my couples!! I hate the position I’m in- I fully believe that my couples will be happier with their memories if they don’t see my photos the next day, and that my best work is not done at 3am after shooting for 12+ hours. But I have bills to pay, and both couples and planners ask for (expect?) previews. I feel so stuck between a rock and a hard place!
Thank you for helping me understand psychologically WHY previews aren’t always best. I tend to hear “I don’t deliver previews because it’s not the full story.” But your input of studies was quite interesting. I want to harden my memories more often! Which is why I love the waiting period of getting film photos back :)
Beautifully written. Beautifully said. Embrace of the perfect imperfect will make us all better humans (john is an “old” friends.) The New York Times should run this in their modern love column. Congratulations on the marriage. I hope it’s as glorious as the wedding day itself.
This is such a beautiful reflection piece from the other side (photographer here). I've always been so curious about the emotional experience when receiving your photos and asking my clients about this felt invasive. I love the honesty here. Thank you for sharing your though process, it means so much 🤍
I loved this reflection and had a similar experience with my wedding (the part about the body image thing was real). Took me over a year to look, and another year to print them. Thank you for sharing!
Came here through John and am so moved by your experience.
Sometimes I tell clients I want them to think about their memories like reading the book before seeing the movie (my photos). We all deserve to let our imaginations and memories create something first. Thank you for putting this into words!
I love that metaphor!!
I loved every part of this! Made it here from John sharing the link on Instagram and, as a photographer myself who recently got married, I relate to these feelings as a bride and also deeply appreciate this read as a photographer. Took many notes to come back to! Thank you for sharing these words and these photos with us 💌
Thank you for reading! It makes me feel so much less alone to know people relate to my experience 🫶
this is everything to me.
I remember learning about some of these studies in psych 1 and still think they were some of the most meaningful things I learned at Stanford.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and photos - both are beautiful!
it's crazy how often I reference psyc studies from psyc 1 and psyc 45 (leanring and memory!) glad the education did something for me 😂
Absolutely wonderful reflections, Liza ❤️ thank you so much for sharing
This was an absolute pleasure to read. Thank you for reminding all of us how virtuous patience can be 💕
Thank you so much for taking the time to read — I’m so glad it resonated 🫶
This was equal parts sooo smart and so moving 😭. I don’t know if it is my relationship to it but I was so moved by this. You are such a beautiful writer — smart and moving is the whole brand. 🥹❤️🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
thank you for being a part of the day and for reading my words. Love you!!
this came at the right time for me, thank you so much for sharing 🥹
I’m so glad to hear that 🫶 — thank you for reading
Hi Liz,
Found you via John Dolan (fellow photographer). Thank you for sharing your inspiring sentiment, and scientific research too.
This is so often felt on both sides of the lens, but rarely shared or spoken about, I carry the same questions and struggles with this no matter the side of the lens I’m on, for every client, every photo, every story.
My hope is for more revelations, as this, that as a whole we will ease back and remain more present surrounding our milestones to digest and then share authentically when the time is right for us, and not when the algorithm and everyone else expects it. TY ❤️
Fellow photographer here. Thank you for sharing so eloquently. I feel this tension every. single. wedding. I deeply desire my couples to roll over the morning after their wedding to be present with each other, not to look at their phones to vicariously relive every moment. And how I wish I could give that gift to each of my couples!! I hate the position I’m in- I fully believe that my couples will be happier with their memories if they don’t see my photos the next day, and that my best work is not done at 3am after shooting for 12+ hours. But I have bills to pay, and both couples and planners ask for (expect?) previews. I feel so stuck between a rock and a hard place!
Thank you for helping me understand psychologically WHY previews aren’t always best. I tend to hear “I don’t deliver previews because it’s not the full story.” But your input of studies was quite interesting. I want to harden my memories more often! Which is why I love the waiting period of getting film photos back :)
Beautifully written. Beautifully said. Embrace of the perfect imperfect will make us all better humans (john is an “old” friends.) The New York Times should run this in their modern love column. Congratulations on the marriage. I hope it’s as glorious as the wedding day itself.
As a wedding photographer this is such an insightful piece of writing every bride should read. And John is my hero.
Bravo
This is such a beautiful reflection piece from the other side (photographer here). I've always been so curious about the emotional experience when receiving your photos and asking my clients about this felt invasive. I love the honesty here. Thank you for sharing your though process, it means so much 🤍
Same here, I agree!
I loved this reflection and had a similar experience with my wedding (the part about the body image thing was real). Took me over a year to look, and another year to print them. Thank you for sharing!
I’m so excited to see these photos! Being part of this weekend was so special and I can’t wait to re-live it ❤️ love you!!!
Glad to finally share them!! Loved having you there to celebrate with 🫶